A while ago now, I stumbled upon the blog post of a writer who was concerned about having his/her work critiqued. This writer was worried. Would an honest critique of his/her work devastate him/her? Would he/she take it personally?
I thought it was an interesting question. It is kind of true. It does feel a little odd to ask someone to tear into that piece of writing you've been slaving over for a long time. And the first few times you put yourself out there it can sting. But in the end the whole idea is to make your writing better, and the only way you're going to get better is to hear the things that are wrong with your work.
The question itself is a good indicator of the willingness of the author to send his/her work out there and have it honestly reviewed. It is the authors who think their work is perfect as is who don't belong in critique groups. They'll be the ones to argue and defend their work when all that's being offered is a way to help make it better.
Then there are the people out there who feel like this writing thing is a competition, and they'll seek to "win" by denigrating the writing of others. These are not good people to work with. They're not going to be very helpful.
But so long as those who are critiquing your work are doing it for the right reasons, there are some ways to get through the critiquing process:
The question itself is a good indicator of the willingness of the author to send his/her work out there and have it honestly reviewed. It is the authors who think their work is perfect as is who don't belong in critique groups. They'll be the ones to argue and defend their work when all that's being offered is a way to help make it better.
Then there are the people out there who feel like this writing thing is a competition, and they'll seek to "win" by denigrating the writing of others. These are not good people to work with. They're not going to be very helpful.
But so long as those who are critiquing your work are doing it for the right reasons, there are some ways to get through the critiquing process:
- Take a deep breath. This is going to be fine.
- Listen to what the person is saying. You don't have to react. You don't have to defend. Just listen.
- Keep in mind that this is not about who you are as a person. It's only about what was on the page. And sometimes, what you thought was on the page was not.
- Thank the person for taking the time to help you make your writing better.
- Don't do anything with the comments for at least a day. Let them sit in your subconscious before you tackle any revisions.
- You are the writer. While other suggestions might be offered, you are the final determiner of what goes on that page.
This is something that does get easier the more you do it. Keep in mind that it's all about making the work better, and a polished piece of writing is worth the trouble.
How do you take critique of your work? What tips do you have to offer to someone who's never gone through the process?